"But a man who commits adultery lacks judgment; whoever does so destroys himself.
"-Proverby 6:32
Personal Story
When I was growingup in St. Paul, my parents fought all the time. They told me it was natural as parents as they try to convey their issues and work it out together. There were times where I got really bothered hearing them fight. In fact, it affected my social life going to school. I was very quite, shy, and passive somehow when I was with my friends or classmates. It seem like I was holding-up this anger inside and I didn't know where to release it-really didn't have anyone to confide or talk to about how I felt.
I remember several times my mom would say "I want a divorce" or "I don't know why I married your dad". This really hurted me because I didn't want to see my dad or mom to separate. I remember saying this a couple of times as I matured, "You two brought us (my siblings and I) to this world together, so you need to stay together to bring us into the world! Then you can get divorce, but till then you need to finish the job you started". Looking back at this, I personally feel parents have to be careful what they say in front of their kids. I wished my mom had another adult she could express our feelings to. I feel parents need that extra support or sometype of fellowship of other adults that are close to share; instead of their kids. Parents need to model for their children. Children are the real victims of their parents actions: adulther, divorce, abuse, etc...It's sad that they can't just speak up on how they feel!
...scroll all the way down below for more resources on =>"Victims"
"Jesus knew their thoughts and said to them, "Every kingdom divided against itself will be ruined, and every city or household divided against itself will not stand."-Matthew 12:25
Adultery
"Don't divide what God has brought together" or " let no one separate them, for God has joined them together."-Mark 10:9
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"Discussion about Divorce and Marriage
Then Jesus left Capernaum and went southward to the region of Judea and into the area east of the Jordan River. As always there were the crowds, and as usual he taught them.
2 Some Pharisees came and tried to trap him with this question: "Should a man be allowed to divorce his wife?"
3 "What did Moses say about divorce?" Jesus asked them.
4 "Well, he permitted it," they replied. "He said a man merely has to write his wife an official letter of divorce and send her away."*
5 But Jesus responded, "He wrote those instructions only as a concession to your hard-hearted wickedness. 6 But God's plan was seen from the beginning of creation, for `He made them male and female.'* 7 `This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife,* 8 and the two are united into one.'* Since they are no longer two but one, 9 let no one separate them, for God has joined them together."
10 Later, when he was alone with his disciples in the house, they brought up the subject again. 11 He told them, "Whoever divorces his wife and marries someone else commits adultery against her. 12 And if a woman divorces her husband and remarries, she commits adultery."
Did you know that adultery is more than "cheating" on a married (1 Corinthians 7)woman as many you think? It is also having emotional thoughtful lust towards a married man/woman! Today is Wednesday, June 2nd of 2004 and I decided to write on this issue after some recent unfortunate circumstances. Some people think committing adultery isn't wrong, so I decided to share them with real-life experiences to give them a bigger picture=>
"A young woman recently sent this message to columnist Ann Landers: "A man who engages in extramarital affairs teaches his sons that this is OK behavior. A woman who stays with an unfaithful husband teachers her daughters to do the same." A good father, added the letter writer, "remains faithful and demonstrates to his sons what it means to be a good husband. A good mother does not condone...bad behavior from her husband."
According to Dr. Archibald Hart, a psychology professor at Fuller Theological Seminary and author of Helping Children Survive Divorce (Word Publishing), children often are the forgotten victims of divorce. He says divorce is damaging to children because:
*It signals the collapse of the family structure; and the child starts to feel alone and frightened.
*The divorce creates conflicts of loyalty in the children; children often feel pulled by love and loyalty in both directions.
*The anger and resentment between the parents, which is so prevalent in most divorces, creates intense fear and anxiety in children.
*Divorce represents to children the loss of many important things such as home, school, neighborhood, church, friends. Deep depression often is the result of this painful loss.
What, then, are the ingredients of a happy, good and enduring marriage? In his book of enduring wisdom and significance, Three to Get Married (Scepter Publishers, Princeton, NJ), the late Archbishop Fulton J. Sheen pointed out that faith in God and the development of a spiritual and psychic bond are essential elements of a good, happy and enduring marriage. He observes: "Marriage involves a soul, a mind, a heart, and a will as much as it involves reproductive organs.... The union, therefore, may be described as psychosomatic, in the sense that it affects the whole person, body and soul, and not merely the lower part alone." When Archbishop Sheen says three are needed to make a marriage happy, good and enduring, he is talking about a husband, a wife, and God....
"Todd Phillips explains God's original intention for marriage and divorce. " Frontline: What are the consequences of divorce?, from youtube.com "Todd Phillips explains the Biblical consequences of divorce. " Frontline: Practicing Divorce, from youtube.com "Todd Phillips explains that God hates divorce, and there are many things we do in relationships to practice for divorce. "
"Jesus teaches that “Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery, and the man who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.” What this meant in the first century helps us understand what it means for us today. [Focus Scripture: Luke 16:16-18] " High-Quality Audio - 24.2 mb
Testimonies
Her Affair Destroyed (and Saved) Their Marriage
""Hello, my name is Nancy, and I am a cheater."
It is said that the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence--but is it really? Nancy C. Anderson--author of Avoiding the Greener Grass Syndrome--believed that there was greener grass outside the boundaries of her marriage, but she soon learned that it was a lie.
This is video of her testimony, which she shared on The 700 Club in 2006.
For more information , visit www.nancycanderson.com."
"World Top 10 - Countries by Highest Divorce Rate
Country Divorce Rate Per 1000
Maldives 10.97
Belarus 4.65
USA 4.19
Panama 3.82
Russia 3.66
Estonia 3.65
Puerto Rico 3.61
Ukraine 3.59
Costa Rica 3.58
Cuba 3.54
"12Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. 13Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. 14And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity."-Colossians 3
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