Selfish somewhat a negative word, but it's true the truth hurts! I'm (Sal) not the best person to write about this issue, but I just want to bring it out! Yes, we can all be self-centered at times or even more! I don't think many of us do this purposely, but unknowingly until someone points it out.
What causes us to be selfish?
Again, I'm not an expert on this topic and the many other issues I've wrote on so far on these weblinks. I just like to share my personal experiences on each them overtime in this season of my life so far. My personal answer has to deal with sin that separates us and our Creator. For example, I struggle with anger, which I get angry easily over little things. As I reflect on my past mistakes dealing with anger, I usually get angry whenever I lose focus of others and draw the attention to my self. One time ok.. many times when I used to come home from work at Taco Bell during and after High School; I easily got mad after a stressful day on the job and would vent off on my family or whoever is at home when I arrive from work. Unfortunately, I kind of do so still after college whenever I come from working at the group home; I'm getting better though as long as I persevere in my personal walk with Christ! The reason I get angry is probably because when I come from work, I've been focussing on me (emotional or physical drain). I come home and everybody is either laughing and relaxing, which I get jealous of this due to comparing my experience (bad) with others (good).
Mark 10 35 45 Mpeg 4 for YouTube
Mark 10:35-45, from youtube.com
Greatness is in Serving I, from youtube.com
Self Esteem, Purpose, and Meaning (Paul Washer)
Self Esteem, Purpose, and Meaning (Paul Washer) from needanewstartcom on GodTube.
What I've been working on lately is to get a whole different perspective or outlook of my circumstances or situation . There is this verse that came to me as I'm writing this from the Bible.
Let me have your eyes Lord?
If we want to know God, I believe He wants us to know His heart and see how He looks at everything. When we do this, we can take our eyes from ourselves and look at everything from his vantage view. Have you ever seen the movie Bruce Almighty starring Jim Carrey? Well Jim plays this character that gets a chance to have the same powers as God, so he can see what it's like from His vantage view as a lesson to be learn. This lesson to be learned experience was given to Jim because he was complaining to God before how he never gets his way-prayers answered. Well, Jim does get his prayers answered, but due to his selfish prayers that please only him. His answered prayers causes disruption for others and the rest of the world. (One scene: Jim pulls the moon closer in order to have that moonlight romantic atmosphere with his girlfiend played by Jennifer Aniston). This serves as a good example if we get everything we want (prayers, materialistic things, people, or anything that we envy), then there might be some consequences that affects others.
What we need to do is take a second look and ask God what to do in each circumstance or situation before selfishly acting upon it. For example, next time I come home from a stressful day on the job, I need to see what would Jesus do. Would Jesus get mad after a hard day at work when he was a carpenter? From what I've read so far from the Bible, he would be joyful and contented of the work he's doing.
Re-Focus from Self
"This is a slideshow I made being deeply moved by the 'Lifehouse Skits' posted here, on Godtube and many other video-hosting sites. Sometimes, when we fail, we ignore God's helping hand and instead seek these things, unknown to the fact that they bring us down even lower. We fall to them, we get attached to them and ultimately, get destroyed by them. Only God's unfailing love can wash us from these sins and inspire us to move on. Only in God's presence can we find true joy, peace and everlasting love."
Q: What are some ways to re-direct this "focus"?
Get a bigger perspective in life
I had the opportunity to visit my parents homeland of the Philippines. When I was there I witnessed hardworking young men in the hot tropical sun working sun-up to sun-down. They were drying the wet corn in one side of the dirt road for miles and leave it throughout the whole day until the sun starts to set when they started to shovel it into bags. I never knew what they did all this for, but they really busted their butts! I worked at Taco Bell for 4+ years and the group home about close to more than the same span of time as of today-Thursday, February 12, 2004. Yes, I do have days where I think about (like today) looking for another job (just worked a 10p-6a shift awake and had to continue working since I couldn't be relieved this morning due to the weather. A co-worker wasn't able to shovel his way out in the farm since the snow drifts blocked him last night). As I'm writing this, I really have second thoughts about looking at another job because I should be thankful about earning a more than a decent wage compared to those young hard-working men in the Philippines.
We at times need to take a break from our daily life routine and take a vacation. That is why Jesus and Moses before Him from the perspective of the Bible time-line, continued to stress the need of rest or acknowledging the Sabbath. We can easily get burned out or narrow minded of what we are doing if we don't take a break. Not just a job, but anything we do: (church/ministry-visit another church to see what God is doing there and then go back to your local church to see what God can use you differently then before or to be more thankful; The number one advice when we do this is to not lose focus on our shepherd-Jesus, which I try to do with my continued personal walking tips (reading the Word, fellowshipping with other believers, or in prayer)
Other words that come with self-
-ambition: personal desires
-pity: feeling sorry for one self
Distorted perception of beauty
Distorted perception of beauty from madglaz on GodTube.
"Real beauty is from the inside! No wonder our perception of beauty is distorted! Mayby we should look to each other like God does... look to the heart instead to the outside appearence... Many women (and men) look to members of the opposide sex with this 'world-view'. Be renewed and stop looking like that! Don't value yourself at how many guys are gazing at you!! Stop wanted being loved by the world, and start wanted being loved by God! "
In the news lately (11.25.03), the media has been focussing on Michael Jackson's current child molestation accusations. Also, they've been showing pictures of MJ from the past to present as his image has changed dramatically. I don't know what's behind his image change (skin disorder, low self-esteem, entertainment industry, etc...). But, he's in an example of the many people out there that have a low self-esteem on their self-image.
I used to suffer a low self-esteem on my self-image (e.g. racism experience) I believed what people said to me (e.g. big nose, big eyes, skinnny, chubby, chicken legs, etc...). I was displeased about my looks-especially growing-up during my adolescent years. There were a lot of peer pressure from classmates on trying to look "cool"-just to feel belong!
It was in college when I started to have a higher self-esteem on my self-image. It was more than I was just growing-up, but I attribute it to my founding relationship with the one who created me-Heavenly Father!
Body Image Statistics in this Eye Opening Video
Body Image Statistics in this Eye Opening Video from findyourtruebeauty on GodTube.
Amy - True Self Esteem - Must Watch!, from Godtube.com
"Amy - True Self Esteem - Must Watch! Send this on to someone you really love and think is beautiful. I know this doesn't have anything to do with animals but I loved this soooooooo much!!!!"
"How beautiful you are, my darling! Oh, how beautiful! Your eyes are doves."-Songs 1:15
Created in "His" Own Image
(Sunday, April 25th 2010)
""Don't let anyone (e.g. society) determine who your are, but the One who created you through what He says (e.g. Bible) "...(my lesson theme I taught on in Sunday School this morning)."
I'm currently preparing to teach Sunday School this morning at my local church (Morris, MN) on "God Created People". I decided to add to this particular topic site because many in our "t.v.-pc" society struggle with "self-image". When I became a Christian in college, my eyes started to "open-up" about "feeling better about myself" (e.g. higher self-esteem knowing I was created by a beautiful "Creator" in "His" own image!-Genesis 1:27)...
"3 When I consider your heavens, the work of your fingers, the moon and the stars, which you have set in place,
4 what is man that you are mindful of him, the son of man that you care for him?
5 You made him a little lower than the heavenly beings [c] and crowned him with glory and honor.
6 You made him ruler over the works of your hands; you put everything under his feet:
7 all flocks and herds, and the beasts of the field,..."-Psalm 8
As I learned that "we" were created in "His" own image, I've learned to appreciated who I am. I started to take care of my physical health more (Romans 12) as I learned we are a "temple of God". Sin has caused our "bodies" to detiriate through lies of the evil one (e.g. "you are not good enough", "you are so ugly", etc..) when we start believing (e.g. start drinking, overeating/binge eating, drugs, alcohol, etc..) the lies through people around us over the years. As I read more of His Word, I've learned that we are "created" beautifully and it made me want to return to that (ever notice that children are very beautiful, but as they get older some get "caught up with the "wordly" standards and their bodies start messing-up?) ...
"And we, who with unveiled faces all reflect[a] the Lord's glory, are being transformed into his likeness with ever-increasing glory, which comes from the Lord, who is the Spirit..."-2 Corinthians 3
As a Christian for over 14 (since Spring of 1996), I've been "trying" to become more "Christ-like". It aint easy as I've struggled and believed the evil one's lies at times; however, I've learned to "come back" to His Word knowing the "Truth"!
Below is the "memory verse" from this particular lesson I'll be sharing this morning at Sunday School (a.k.a. "Super Church")...
"4For everything God created is good, and nothing is to be rejected if it is received with thanksgiving, 5because it is consecrated by the word of God and prayer. "-1 Timothy 4:4
Creation, from kidssundayschool.com
Anorexia, Bulimia, and other Eating Disorders
1 out of 10 females in college suffer from this problem, which I learned when I was trained to be a Residential Advisor at UMM in 1997-1998. I decided to re"search" more on this after chatting with a co-worker of mine on this serious "sad" issue.
Dia's Testimony - Delivered from eating disorder and bad self-image
Saved from Drugs, Eating Disorders and Cutting - CBN.com
Amy Woods: Hiding Her Bulimia - CBN.com
BarlowGirl speak out about Eating Disorders
"Rebecca from BarlowGirl once struggled with eating disorders. Isaiah 62 helped her through that time and showed her that she was 'beloved'."
testimony of Becca Barlow before Barlowgirl performs Sing Me A Lovesong
ANOREXIC FRENCH MODEL ISABELLE CARO DIES VIDEO
Anorexia's Living Face (CBS News) , from youtube.com
"Isabelle Caro is the face behind a poignant Italian ad campaign that depicts anorexia in its truest form, one that has shocked the fashion industry. Sheila MacVicar reports. (CBSNews.com)"
What I've been doing?
Today (February 2007), I feel better about myself-particularly knowing Who my Creator is and that He created me beautiful in His image. I do my best to live a healthy-balanced life to grow physically, spiritually, and emotionally. Now that I feel good about myself, which is something I'll keep growing; I want to help others feel the same way. It's like that song from my favorite 80's music artist...
michael jackson "Man in the Mirror"
-from "Man in the Mirror" (azlyrics) by Michael Jackson
"I'm Gonna Make A Change, For Once In My Life It's Gonna Feel Real Good, Gonna Make A Difference Gonna Make It Right . . .
As I, Turn Up The Collar On My Favourite Winter Coat This Wind Is Blowin' My Mind I See The Kids In The Street, With Not Enough To Eat Who Am I, To Be Blind? Pretending Not To See Their Needs A Summer's Disregard, A Broken Bottle Top And A One Man's Soul They Follow Each Other On The Wind Ya' Know 'Cause They Got Nowhere To Go That's Why I Want You To Know
I'm Starting With The Man In The Mirror I'm Asking Him To Change His Ways And No Message Could Have Been Any Clearer If You Wanna Make The World A Better Place (If You Wanna Make The World A Better Place) Take A Look At Yourself, And Then Make A Change (Take A Look At Yourself, And Then Make A Change) (Na Na Na, Na Na Na, Na Na, Na Nah)
I've Been A Victim Of A Selfish Kind Of Love It's Time That I Realize That There Are Some With No Home, Not A Nickel To Loan Could It Be Really Me, Pretending That They're Not Alone?
A Willow Deeply Scarred, Somebody's Broken Heart And A Washed-Out Dream (Washed-Out Dream) They Follow The Pattern Of The Wind, Ya' See Cause They Got No Place To Be That's Why I'm Starting With Me (Starting With Me!)
I'm Starting With The Man In The Mirror (Ooh!) I'm Asking Him To Change His Ways (Ooh!) And No Message Could Have Been Any Clearer If You Wanna Make The World A Better Place (If You Wanna Make The World A Better Place) Take A Look At Yourself And Then Make A Change (Take A Look At Yourself And Then Make A Change)
I'm Starting With The Man In The Mirror (Ooh!) I'm Asking Him To Change His Ways (Change His Ways-Ooh!) And No Message Could've Been Any Clearer If You Wanna Make The World A Better Place (If You Wanna Make The World A Better Place) Take A Look At Yourself And Then Make That . . . (Take A Look At Yourself And Then Make That . . .) Change!
I'm Starting With The Man In The Mirror, (Man In The Mirror-Oh Yeah!) I'm Asking Him To Change His Ways (Better Change!) No Message Could Have Been Any Clearer (If You Wanna Make The World A Better Place) (Take A Look At Yourself And Then Make The Change) (You Gotta Get It Right, While You Got The Time) ('Cause When You Close Your Heart) You Can't Close Your . . .Your Mind! (Then You Close Your . . . Mind!) That Man, That Man, That Man, That Man With That Man In The Mirror (Man In The Mirror, Oh Yeah!) That Man, That Man, That Man I'm Asking Him To Change His Ways (Better Change!) You Know . . .That Man No Message Could Have Been Any Clearer If You Wanna Make The World A Better Place (If You Wanna Make The World A Better Place) Take A Look At Yourself And Then Make A Change (Take A Look At Yourself And Then Make A Change) Hoo! Hoo! Hoo! Hoo! Hoo! Na Na Na, Na Na Na, Na Na, Na Nah (Oh Yeah!) Gonna Feel Real Good Now! Yeah Yeah! Yeah Yeah! Yeah Yeah! Na Na Na, Na Na Na, Na Na, Na Nah (Ooooh . . .) Oh No, No No . . . I'm Gonna Make A Change It's Gonna Feel Real Good! Come On! (Change . . .) Just Lift Yourself You Know You've Got To Stop It. Yourself! (Yeah!-Make That Change!) I've Got To Make That Change, Today! Hoo! (Man In The Mirror) You Got To You Got To Not Let Yourself . . . Brother . . . Hoo! (Yeah!-Make That Change!) You Know-I've Got To Get That Man, That Man . . . (Man In The Mirror) You've Got To You've Got To Move! Come On! Come On! You Got To . . . Stand Up! Stand Up! Stand Up! (Yeah-Make That Change) Stand Up And Lift Yourself, Now! (Man In The Mirror) Hoo! Hoo! Hoo! Aaow! (Yeah-Make That Change) Gonna Make That Change . . . Come On! (Man In The Mirror) You Know It! You Know It! You Know It! You Know . . . (Change . . .) Make That Change.
Self-Conscious about yourself?
I was listening to the radio (Friday, January 23rd 09') and heard this great message....
Breaking Through Life's Biggest Barriers
-How to Overcome Inferiority and Low Self-Image
Do you ever look at yourself in the mirror to see how you look? When you look at a group picture that you are in, do you first look at yourself? Just remember, you are unique and God made you "different" from the 6+ billion people in the world. Don't ever let anyone tell you are not what God says about you...
Identity in Christ
*see GoodnewsEverybody.com Christian Life-Peace, Joy, Love, Faith, Forgiveness, Persecution-Suffering, etc...
Liberal Arts: Women
Andrew Zimmerman Part II Interview
*see GoodnewsEverybody.com Social Issues: Alcohol(ism), Alcoholic, Drinking, Intoxicated, Liquor, etc...
""But the LORD said to Samuel, "Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The LORD does not looks at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart."-1 Samuel 16:7
Nikki Richter's Testimony
Nikki Richter's Testimony from Life Church on Vimeo.
God Made You Special Live! (Trailer)
"FINALLY! VEGGIETALES IS ON STAGE!!!!! Coming to a church or theater near you! GOD MADE YOU SPECIAL AND HE LOVES YOU VERY MUCH! "
I had the opportunity to see this live concert with my niece, older sister, and mom this past weekend (Saturday, October 18th of 2008). Yes, God made each of us unique and special. We sometimes feel like an outside because we don't "fit" with the group. However, we need to constantly remind ourselves we were created unique and different.
'God Made You Special' Trailer 207352, from youtube.com
God Made You Special - [1/8]
God Made You Special - [6/8]
lizzie velasquez: Girl Must Eat Every 15 Minutes - Inspirational Story
" Uploaded on Jun 28, 2010
Lizzie Velasquez is an Austin, Texas girl who must eat every 15 minutes to stay alive. Her photo would give the impression that she is anorexic, but she's not. In fact, her medical condition is a mystery. She is unable to gain weight or store fat in her body.
Lizzie Velasquez, 21-years-old, stands 4 foot 2 inches tall and weighs just 60-pounds. She wears a size triple zero clothes even though she eats between 5,000 and 8,000 calories every day. Her body does not store fat so she has to eat that much, at least every 15 minutes, just to stay alive and healthy. She says she weights herself constantly and is ecstatic if she's gained even a fraction of a pound.
When she was born she weighted just 2 pounds, 10 ounces and had very little amniotic fluid protecting her in her mother's womb. Her skin was translucent and her parents, Guadeloupe and Rita Velasquez had to dress her in doll clothes. Her mother said that doctors had no idea how she survived. She has been part of genetic studies and fascinated scientists throughout her life.
You can read about her at her website. http://www.aboutlizzie.com/
Enjoy who God made you to be
"Just be who you are... Enjoy who God made you to be."
*heard this on KTIS 98.5FM (Minnesota) on Sunday, November 19th 2011
The Bourne Identity (Trailer)
The Bourne Supremacy (Trailer)
The Bourne Ultimatum - Theatrical Trailer
*I just saw the 1st and 2nd of this triology series the past 2 months (Wednesday, March 23rd 2011) and it reminds me of how we all are searching-struggling to find our "identity" in life. I found mine in 1996 (see personal story) and continue to refine that search, how about you?
Tenth Avenue North - You Are More
"Music video by Tenth Avenue North performing You Are More. (C) 2010 Provident Label Group LLC, a unit of Sony Music Entertainment"
Joe Cocker - You Are So Beautiful
You are so beautiful to me
You are so beautiful to me
Can't you see
Your everything I hoped for
Your everything I need
You are so beautiful to me
Such joy and happiness you bring
Such joy and happiness you bring
Like a dream
A guiding light that shines in the night
Heavens gift to me
You are so beautiful to me"
"I Love My Lips
*love what God has given you
The solution to low self esteem
"Sermon clip from New Life Community Church http://www.newlifecommunitychurchct.org/ The solution to low self esteem How does God see you?"
Nick Vujicic: Life without Limbs
*see GoodnewsEverybody Issues: Sinful, Rebellion, Wrong, Guilt, Temptation, etc...