Issues: Abused-Child, Domestic, Physically, Sexually, Verbal, etc...

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There are many types of abuse:

-Emotional (e.g. called negative "words)
-Domestic, spousal, marriage
(e.g. in marriage or any type of relationships)
-Physical (e.g. beaten)
-Spiritual (e.g. offended/hurt by the church)

Whatever it is, call out to Jesus to have Him come to heal you-it's a timely process!

Other versus in the Bible to meditate on:

Genesis 16:9
Exodus: 20:4-5
Isaiah 50:4-6

Isaiah 55=>
"9 Confuse the wicked, O Lord, confound their speech, for I see violence and strife in the city. 10 Day and night they prowl about on its walls; malice and abuse are within it. " 11 Destructive forces are at work in the city; threats and lies never leave its streets.

12 If an enemy were insulting me, I could endure it; if a foe were raising himself against me, I could hide from him. 13 But it is you, a man like myself, my companion, my close friend, 14 with whom I once enjoyed sweet fellowship as we walked with the throng at the house of God.

15 Let death take my enemies by surprise; let them go down alive to the grave, [2] for evil finds lodging among them.

16 But I call to God, and the LORD saves me. 17 Evening, morning and noon I cry out in distress, and he hears my voice. 18 He ransoms me unharmed from the battle waged against me, even though many oppose me. 19 God, who is enthroned forever, will hear them and afflict them- Selah men who never change their ways and have no fear of God.

20 My companion attacks his friends; he violates his covenant. 21 His speech is smooth as butter, yet war is in his heart; his words are more soothing than oil, yet they are drawn swords.

22 Cast your cares on the LORD and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous fall. 23 But you, O God, will bring down the wicked into the pit of corruption; bloodthirsty and deceitful men will not live out half their days.

But as for me, I trust in you.



  • Stevens County part of Radiothon to End Child Abuse- Past fundraising efforts have supported local education programs such as Morris and Chokio/Alberta ECFE, child development and family living classes at Morris and Chokio/Alberta high school Published November 26 2010

  • "Stevens County Family Well Being Committee is a part of a statewide network developed by the Children’s Trust Fund. This network includes representatives of various agencies and community members who are concerned with the prevention of child maltreatment.
    On Dec. 2-3, the Stevens County Child Abuse Prevention Council is joining with Douglas, Pope, Grant, and Todd County Child Abuse Prevention councils and KIK-FM to host the annual Radiothon to End Child Abuse.
    Call 1-877-836-KIDZ(5439).
    Past fundraising efforts have supported local education programs such as Morris and Chokio/Alberta ECFE, child development and family living classes at Morris and Chokio/Alberta high school. Funds have also supported Safe Exchange/Parenting Time Center of the Region IV council on domestic violence, a parenting home visiting program and radKIDS (a personal empowerment safety program for parents and children), and a variety of information and materials for families.
    Organizations, businesses and individuals are encouraged to help the prevention council provide education programs and materials which increase community awareness of the effects of child abuse and neglect and to offer information and support to families. You can participate by making a pledge during the Radiothon.
    Stevens County representatives will be at the phones on Dec. 2 from 3 p.m. to 6 p.m. to take pledges or to accept bids on auction items. Pledges will come directly back to Stevens County for prevention programs.
    For more information, call Tamy Reese at (320) 589-4394, extension 2237.



  • Woman Sentenced to Life for Killing, Freezing 2 Daughters, from

  • "(March 22) -- A Maryland woman has been sentenced to life without parole for killing two adopted special-needs children and storing their bodies in a freezer so she could collect more than $150,000 in subsidies for their care. ...
    Bowman, 44, was arrested in September 2008 after a third adopted child, a 7-year-old girl, escaped her Lusby, Md., home by jumping out of a second-story bedroom window. Half-nude and covered in blood and feces, the girl told a neighbor, "My mother beats me; she just beats me to death." The neighbor called 911 and reported the abuse....
    Bowman adopted Minnet in July 2001 and the other two girls, who were biological sisters, in 2004. Each of them had been identified as "special needs" children. Bowman had been receiving approximately $2,400 a month in government subsidies to care for the three girls. ....


    Dating Abuse

  • Dating Violence is Never Acceptable By Kelli Mahoney, GuideFebruary 10, 2009

  • "...But really, there is so much more to be learned here. Stepping outside of initial, surface judgements, I started to think more about the incident and realized that Rihanna is just out of her teens and already dealing with a violent relationship. Was it always violent? We don't know, and I'm not sure it's our business to gossip and speculate. Yet, what we do know is that no girl should have to be victimized by a boyfriend,....
  • Laura's Story *New Testimony!*,

  • *Laura will be sharing her testimony in person at Want to Find your Mate? Bible Study this year!*
    " Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate: A Personal Experience by Nicholl McGuire

    "Uploaded on Mar 27, 2011 10 Reasons Why Women Stay in Unhealthy Relationships Read more:
    The poetry book was published on,
    Articles were written about dating and domestic violence throughout the Internet about Nicholl's dating experience. Now you hear from Nicholl, herself, about her violent nine-month experience. If you are in a troublesome relationship, get tips from others who have been where you are at:
    Laboring To Love An Abusive Mate: A 21-Year-Old Woman's Diary To Stay Or Go [Paperback] by Nicholl McGuire "

    Testimony Sexual Abuse Lesbian

    Domestic Abuse

    I grew-up in a loving family. Like all families, there are hard-times and problems. My parents had their disagreements, which fighting is normal-verbally! However, physically-that isn't acceptable! I didn't know what I could do our supposed to do when my dad would lose his temper and hit my mom. He didn't beat her up like you see in the movies, but enough to leave bruises on my mom's shoulders or chest. It wasn't a pretty sight to watch or hear growing-up a little kids. As I write this now (30 years old), I look back and wish my parents' knew God-personal relationship! I guess the circumstances growing-up led me to Him, which I want to help others like me when I was kid find Him.

    I've learned about the power of forgivenss, which I pray that my dad will understand what he did was wrong and that he gets help from anger. More importantly that he comes to know God, which all the above will follow. I somewhat inherited that anger inside of me and caught myself doing what my dad did growing-up. I've gotten better to this day and continue pray to do so with His help!


  • Peace & Safety

  • Where can I go if I am a victim of domestic abuse?


    Question: "What is the Christian answer to domestic violence?"



    The Michael London Show: Pt4: Breaking The Silence: Domestic Violence


  • Focus Ministries, based in Chicago, IL

  • "In September 1995, a group of women in the western suburbs of Chicago, Illinois began meeting once a month to encourage each other and provide a forum for sharing personal needs. Soon after, FOCUS Ministries was organized by two women from that original group, Brenda Branson and Paula Silva. Both women are single parents who have experienced the horror of spousal abuse, separation, and divorce."
  • First Day Light Info

  • What About The Kids - Domestic Violence :30sec


    A Child Molested. Break the Silence

    " Having a child molested can be the most traumatic trail for a parent. There is hope. Learn ways to prevent child sexual abuse. If you or your child has been sexually abused by a molester find healing and help at Your fight is our fight."
    *see "The Church is a bunch of hypocrites…why are so many Christians so hypocritical?"



  • I Will Survie in Jesus Name!, from aphesis publishing
  • -Miscellaneous

  • Counsel Care Connection anger or abuse?
  • Domestic Violence Links, from Christian Recovery Int'l
  • Finding Refuge: Escaping the Cycle of Domestic Abuse: Special Offer w/FREE FamilyLife Today CDs, from
  • Testimonies

  • Domestic Abuse Book, from a story provided by Pastor of Cabinet Mountain Bible Church
  • Videos

  • God save the abuse victims, from

  • "A violent ex-husband left me with moderate tbi (traumatic brain injury. I am married to a Christian man now and May 31 of 2007 I am present via phone in a NY state court hearing to enforce my contact with my two children from that man. They are in his custody and word got to me that they are being abused. Their dad's abuse led me to loss of all 4 of my biological children. I know God is with me. Pray for the hearing and that truth and justice will prevail for the sake of the children. Pray for strong Christian people to come into theie lives to spiritually support them and build them up. Amen"


    Afghan women suffer of domestic violence

    "..Sometimes Afghan men beating their wife for nothing just they like it to show their power and anger in his family member. When they feel to beat their wife they do it immediately. Many parents marry their daughters off to wealthy men aged 60 and 70. A shocking story of child bride at the age of four in Kandahar is one example of thousands. Many parents sell their daughters like materials, they are not care where does she goes and what will happened on her. About 57% of Afghan girls are married before the legal marriage age of 16; about 60-80% of marriages are forced. Hundreds of women are jailed, last year a local reporter said; the prisoners of women prison, are always rape. A lady whispered me that last night five soldier with Kalashnikov forcedly took me out of prison and raped in their cabin. He said. A UNIFEM research project suggests that 80 percent of the violence is committed by a family member - husband, father, brother, son. Read more at or Farsi at"

    Sexual Abuse

    I've learned that many of my friends that were sexually abused ended up getting homosexual thoughts or even actions.


  • Myths and Facts About Sex Offenders , from Center for Sex Offender Management

  • "Adolescents are responsible for a significant number of rape and child molestation cases each year. "
  • Myths and Facts About Sex Offenders, from City of Fargo

  • "While sex offenders constitute a large and increasing population of prison inmates, most are eventually released to the community. Some 60% of those 265,000 convicted sex offenders noted above were supervised in the community, whether directly following sentencing or after a term of incarceration in jail or prison. Short of incarceration, supervision allows the criminal justice system the best means to maintain control over offenders, monitor their residence, and require them to work and participate in treatment. As a result, there is a growing interest in providing community supervision for this population as an effective means of reducing the threat of future victimization."
  • Helping Boys Become Men, and Girls Become Women- The Homosexual Campaign Against Children, from Focus on the Family

  • Other related links
  • Homosexuality and Child Sexual Abuse, from Family Research Council

  • "While many homosexuals may not seek young sexual partners, the evidence indicates that disproportionate numbers of gay men seek adolescent males or boys as sexual partners."
    less than three percent of the population are homosexuals. Thus, a tiny percentage of the population (homosexual men), commit one-third or more of the cases of child sexual molestation.

  • Male-to-Male Child Sexual Abuse In the Context of Homophobia by Kali Munro, M.Ed., Psychotherapist, 2000

  • Meet the 3 teens that Bush executed
  • Disability (e.g.ADHD)

  • Disability Abuse and Personal Rights
  • Jewish Mentally Retarded and Intellectually Challenged Survivors of Sexual Violence

  • "It is estimated that children with disabilities are 4 to 10 times more vulnerable to sexual abuse than their non-disabled peers (National Resource Center on Child Sexual Abuse, 1992)
  • Juveniles Who have Sexually Offended
  • Retard rape: No harm, no foul?, from Ohio

  • Sexual Abuse of the Mentally Retarded Patient: Medical and Legal ..., from psychiatrist
  • Blog

  • Pandora's Project

  • " a 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization dedicated to providing information, support, and resources to survivors of rape and sexual abuse and their friends and family. We have been devoted to recovery and healing since 1999. ..


  • A Powerful Story Overcoming Rape and Self Mutilation – Vicki’s Experiences ,
  • Healing

  • Child Sexual Abuse by William P. Wilson, M.D. -- Commentaries from past newsletters --

  • "It is difficult to bring healing to the sexually abused. They may have grown up in a chaotic environment. If they have, they may display chaotic personalities, what we call borderline personalities. These are most difficult to treat. Even so, nothing is too hard for God. The Holy Spirit can bring order to their personalities. He can uncover and heal the conflicts that have so disturbed these battered and bruised children of God. I can testify to His healing power in persons who have not profited from all kinds of secular therapies, including drugs and shock treatments..."
  • Sexual Abuse Center-Reccomended Reading

  • Love Heals Old Wounds -



  • Minnesota Advocates for Human Rights Jeremiah Jackson v. State of ...
  • Minnesota Association of Treatment of Sexual Abusers
  • Minnesota Child Sexual Abuse Laws

  • Minnesota County Attorneys Association
  • Stop it Now

  • Olympic medalist Hoelzer goes public with sexual abuse, from sports Illustrated Sept 15th of 2008

  • ".."She was the one who was like, 'Oh my God, you were molested,"' Hoelzer said. "You need to tell your mom.' She was the one who actually put a name on it for me."
    Heeding her friend's advice, young Margaret went to her mother.
    "She was putting up a border in her bedroom," Hoelzer said. "Of course, I go in there and volunteer to help. She's probably wondering why in the world does she want to help me do this? Luckily, it was a very thick border. It took forever to do." v All the while, a child told her story to a stunned parent.
    "She was very quiet and listened," Hoelzer recalled. "I remember from time to time, she would say things to kind of prod me along. I was very, very lucky because she 100 percent believed me. She never questioned it. Most importantly, she just let me talk. She didn't freak out."
    Hoelzer's mom immediately told her father. That night, the police were called. The family was directed to the National Child Advocacy Center, which lined up counseling for everyone and showed them how to pursue legal action.
    The alleged molester was arrested. There was no real physical evidence because Hoelzer wasn't raped. Also, the passage of time and a child's still-developing memory raised doubts about whether a conviction could be reached in the harsh scrutiny of a courtroom. The case was taken to a grand jury, but no formal charges were ever brought.
    That made it even harder to take.
    "I was very angry for a long time that nothing happened and he got off scot-free," Hoelzer conceded. "In school, if you did something wrong you would get in trouble for it. You would go to detention or have your parents ground you. It was almost this mentality of, 'How can you do something like that and have nothing happen?' No community service. No fine. Nothing.
    "Now that I'm older," she added, "I realize that's not how it is. A lack of evidence is just a lack of evidence."
    She never had any more contact with that family.
    She never had any desire to confront her molester.
    "I haven't seen him in almost 20 years," Hoelzer said. "I don't even know if I'd recognize him at this point.".."

  • Child Sexual Abuse, from family clearinghouse in Canada
  • -Nation

  • Child Abuse Reporting in Family Planning Settings, from youthlaw
  • Court Cases on Sexual Offense

  • "Sexual Offenses
    Bonner had serious difficulties throughout his childhood. He received psychological counseling and was on a regimen of medication to control his behavior. At the age of 17 he finally finished ninth grade, and quit school. He had no significant work experience thereafter.
    When Bonner was (apparently) 18, he met a 14 year old girl from another town who told him she was 17. After the girl returned home, she called him every day for a week urging him to come to her town so that they could be boyfriend and girlfriend. "Enraptured, Bonner hastily borrowed money from a friend for a bus ticket," 577 N.W. 2d at 577, and traveled to the girl's town. There he stopped taking his medication, and spent several weeks drinking and partying. During this period he allegedly had sexual intercourse on two occasions with the girl in question.
    The police also investigated Bonner with regard to possible sexual contacts with four other girls. There was a rape charge filed with regard to a 13 year old girl, but the only facts in the record consisted of a statement by the girls denying any sexual contact other than a few "hickeys." 577 N.W. 2d at 578.
    Although it is unclear how much police knew at the time, the events in this case illustrate how police understanding of FAS/FAE could be important in preventing criminal offenses.

  • Sentencing Law & Policy
  • Texas Child Abuse Attorney
  • Should individuals be held accountable for their actions?, from the ARC " Absolutely. This may be the only opportunity they have ever had to learn about appropriate sexual behavior. Creative sentencing options can be used to encourage actual behavior change, which is preferable to a jail or prison sentence. Those who serve time in jail or prison face a high chance of reoffending since quality sex education and related services are not offered though the present day criminal justice system.
    Sentencing options can be created through a pre-sentence plan. These can be developed by a case manager or advocate from a chapter of The Arc along with the district attorney's office and the probation department. The plan is then presented by the district attorney to the judge. Options may include 24-48 hour incarceration in a safe environment along with sex/relationship training, restitution for damages, confinement to a residential facility for a specific period of time or required treatment (Valesco, 1993). This type of "personalized justice plan" or PJP is being used successfully in some chapters of The Arc that conduct criminal justice programs. For information on one such program, contact The Arc of New Jersey at 732-246-2525 or or ARC New Jersey

    Making a Statement, from Australia

    OTHER:House impeaches Texas judge accused of sex crimes, (Friday, June 19th of 2009)
    "(CNN) -- The House of Representatives voted Friday to impeach a federal judge convicted of obstruction of justice while in office.
    U.S. District Judge Samuel B. Kent of Texas pleaded guilty in February, admitting he lied to investigators about nonconsensual sexual contact with two employees in his courthouse. As part of a plea agreement, other counts alleging sexual misconduct were dropped.
    Kent was the first federal judge to be charged with sexual crimes while in office.
    He has submitted his resignation, but made it effective June 1, 2010, meaning he would be paid for a year while in prison.....


  • Sexual Abuse of Children-Child Trauma Academy

  • " Child sexual abuse is a significant public health problem in the United States and across the world. In the United States one out of three females and one out of five males have been victims of sexual abuse before the age of 18 years. Sexual abuse occurs across all ethnic/racial, socioeconomic, and religious groups. Unfortunately, sexual abuse is considered a relatively common experience in the lives of children. "
  • Child sexual abuse From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

  • "Offenders are more likely to be relatives or acquaintances of their victim than strangers.[156]A 2006-2007 Idaho study of 430 cases found that 82% of juvenile sex offenders were known to the victims (acquaintances 46% or relatives 36%).[157] [5]The percentage of incidents of sexual abuse by female perpetrators that come to the attention of the legal system is usually reported to be between 1% and 4%.[158] Studies of sexual misconduct in US schools female sex offenders have showed mixed results with rates between 4% to 43% of female offenders.[100] In U.S. schools, educators who offend range in age from "21 to 75 years old, with an average age of 28" with teachers, coaches, substitute teachers, bus drivers and teacher's aids (in that order) totaling 69% of the offenders.[159]..."


  • Movies with Child Abuse, from
  • Pedophilia in films-Wikipedia

  • Mystic River-Wikipedia

  • "The film opens with three boys, Sean Devine, Jimmy Markum, and Dave Boyle, playing hockey in the street. While playing, the boys find a section of sidewalk cement that is still drying. Jimmy impulsively writes his name in the cement and Sean follows. Dave begins to write his name in the cement, however, a car pulls up and a man who appears to be a plainclothes police officer gets out, scolds the three boys, and tells Dave to get in the car. As the car moves away, Dave looks out the back window to see Jimmy and Sean staring back at him. Hearing that Dave was taken away by a police officer, the parents of Jimmy and Sean agree that something is wrong and begin to look for him. The film then cuts to Dave in the basement of the two pedophiles who took him and then to Dave running away from the house through a forest."
  • Sleepers (1996), from

  • Mystic.River.(2003)_TRAILER

    "movie trailer"
    Wikipedia-Sleepers (film)

    Resource Materials

  • T Cavanagh, ph.d. licensed psychologist
  • Sports


  • Syracuse basketball coach fired amid sex abuse investigation By the CNN Wire Staff updated 9:40 PM EST, Sun November 27, 2011

  • "Syracuse, New York (CNN) -- Syracuse University has fired Bernie Fine as an assistant men's basketball coach, the school announced Sunday night, hours after new reports arose regarding his alleged sexual abuse of boys. "At the direction of Chancellor Cantor, Bernie Fine's employment with Syracuse University has been terminated, effective immediately," university Senior Vice President Kevin Quinn said in a statement, referring to Syracuse Chancellor Nancy Cantor. Fine was placed on administrative leave earlier this month, after former Syracuse ball boy Bobby Davis and his stepbrother, Mike Lang, accused him of molesting them. The university in announcing Fine's leave earlier this month noted it had conducted its own investigation in 2005 and was "unable to find any corroboration of the allegations." "The events of the past week have shaken us all," Cantor said in a statement Sunday. "No other witnesses came forward during the university investigation (in 2005), and those who felt they knew Bernie best could not imagine what has unfolded." Audio proof in abuse case? More audio on abuse case Syracuse men's basketball head coach Jim Boeheim said in a statement Sunday night that he believed "the university took the appropriate step" in firing Fine, his assistant coach the past 35 years. "The allegations that have come forth today are disturbing and deeply troubling. I am personally very shocked because I have never witnessed any of the activities that have been alleged," said Boeheim, who days earlier said Fine had his "full support." "I deeply regret any statements I made that might have inhibited that from occurring or been insensitive to victims of abuse." The news of Fine's firing came the same day that the Syracuse-based Post-Standard newspaper and ESPN both reported the existence of a recording of a 2002 phone conversation that they said Davis had recorded between him and the coach's wife. What did Fine's wife know? Davis provided the recording to the Post-Standard soon after it was recorded, but the newspaper then declined to report on it because it couldn't find "witnesses, enough corroborating evidence or a second accuser." The wife, Laurie Fine, at the time suggested to the Post-Standard that Davis had taped her on multiple occasions and edited the recordings to make them appear more inflammatory. In the tape, a woman -- which ESPN, citing experts, claims was Laurie Fine -- said she knew "everything that went on" with her husband, adding that "he thinks he's above the law." "Bernie has issues ... and you trusted somebody you shouldn't," the woman said, speaking to Davis. The woman appears to acknowledge an inappropriate sexual relationship between Davis and Bernie Fine, saying, "It's just wrong and you were a kid." She also said that her husband should "find (himself) a gay boy, get your rocks off." Repeated calls by CNN to Laurie Fine were unanswered Sunday, and no one answered repeated knocks on the door of her house. Cantor, the Syracuse chancellor, said the school did not know of the recording during its 2005 investigation. Bernie Fine's attorneys, Donald Martin and Karl Sleight, released a statement Sunday -- hours before their client's firing was announced -- declining to comment on the reports. "Any comment from (Fine) would only invite and perpetuate ancient and suspect claims," the lawyers said. "Mr. Fine remains hopeful of a credible and expeditious review of the relevant issues by law enforcement authorities." The embattled coach appeared to be getting some support as evidenced by a sign outside his home that read: "We believe in your innocence Bernie. We love you!" On Friday, the Secret Service joined local law enforcement to search Fine's home, according to John Duncan, a spokesman for the U.S. Attorney's office in New York's northern district. File cabinets were among the items taken from the home after the search warrant was issued, though Duncan declined to discuss what authorities were looking for. Duncan noted that the Secret Service's duties include "investigations into crimes involving electronic transactions." The Secret Service did not comment Sunday on the probe. Davis, a former Syracuse ball boy who is now 39, told ESPN earlier this month that Fine molested him "hundreds of times" over the course of 16 years, starting from when he was in the fifth or sixth grade. He told university officials six years ago that he informed Syracuse police that he had been "subjected to inappropriate contact by an associate men's basketball coach" during the 1980s and 1990s, according to an earlier statement from Quinn, the school spokesman. Police had told Davis years ago that they would not pursue the case because the statute of limitations had expired, Quinn said in a statement. On Sunday, another man -- Zachary Tomaselli, now 23 -- told CNN that he also was abused by Fine while in a hotel room in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, where he'd gone to watch a Syracuse game. The incident happened about a decade ago, when he traveled by himself a few months after he'd met Fine, Tomaselli said. He claimed that the coach "put his hand down my shorts" as he was watching TV, adding Fine allegedly did so "four or five times." Tomaselli said that he agreed with Syracuse's decision to fire Fine, adding the school also owed an apology to the coach's alleged victims. The accuser's father, Fred Tomaselli, claimed that while he and his son had sat in "nose-bleed" seats during Syracuse games, they'd never met Fine. Moreover, he said the boy never stayed overnight in a hotel room with Fine, nor had he ever been brought to Pittsburgh or gone to a game there. The father said that Zachary Tomaselli's allegation is completely "100% false," suggesting that his son needed help and calling him a "master manipulator." The father and son are estranged. Davis' stepbrother, Mike Lang, 45, has also accused Fine of sexual abuse. Lang told ESPN earlier this month that Fine molested him "15 to 20 times," and confirmed the abuse to CNN in a phone interview Sunday. While he said that he often found himself "pushing (Fine's) hand away," Lang said that his stepbrother suffered much more than he did. He described Bernie Fine as "like a father figure" to both he and Bobby Davis, noting the two then-teenagers attended Bernie's wedding to Laurie 26 years ago. Lang said his "hands started shaking" when he heard the apparent voice of Laurie Fine -- as broadcast this weekend on ESPN -- talking to his stepbrother about the alleged abuse. Thirty minutes after the story broke earlier this fall about former Penn State assistant football coach Jerry Sandusky, who is accused of sexually abusing boys over a span of 14 years, Bobby Davis texted his stepbrother. Lang said the text read: "'This is what happened to me.'" Lang's accusation, made after the Sandusky scandal broke, kick-started the reopened police investigation November 17. Onondaga County District Attorney William Fitzpatrick has harshly criticized Syracuse Police Chief Frank Fowler and Deputy Chief Sean Broton over the handling of a 2002 probe of Fine that began with Davis' allegation. Fitzpatrick filed subpoenas for records in the 2002 and current investigations that he said he should readily have access to. A 1967 graduate of Syracuse, where he'd been a student manager for the basketball team, Fine rejoined the program nine years later as an assistant coach under Boeheim. Prior to his dismissal, he'd been with the Orange ever since -- the longest such streak for an assistant coach in Division I basketball, the school said. According to his official biography, which was taken down from Syracuse's website on Sunday night, Fine "has been a tremendous advocate for SU alumni who want to play professional basketball" and "an active member of the Syracuse community." Besides his wife, Laurie, he has a son and two daughters, the profile stated. CNN's Susan Candiotti and Ross Levitt in New York and Deborah Feyerick in Syracuse contributed to this report."

  • Focus on child sex abuse, 'healing' as Penn State team takes field By the CNN Wire Staff updated 11:31 PM EST, Sat November 12, 2011

  • "University Park, Pennsylvania (CNN) -- Tens of thousands packed Penn State's football stadium Saturday, cheering the Nittany Lions for the first time since graphic child sexual abuse allegations rocked the university and led to the ouster of its president and iconic football coach.
    The Nittany Lions lost the game -- the first in 46 years without Joe Paterno as head coach -- 17-14 to Nebraska. But the man who replaced Paterno said that the actions of fans and players Saturday sent a message against sexual abuse and helped them personally come to grips after an emotional week.
    "It was a day of solidarity for the children, for the victims -- it was a touching moment," interim coach Tom Bradley said of the crowd's demeanor and emotional pre-game ceremonies focused on child abuse. "I felt that today, just maybe, the healing process started to begin."
    A moment of silence was held before the game in honor of the alleged victims. Current and former players from Penn State and Nebraska locked arms amid thunderous applause from more than 100,000 fans -- many of them wearing blue, to focus attention on child abuse -- in attendance.
    Interim Penn State President Rodney Erickson said Saturday that it was important for the Penn State community, led by the team's players, to "show unity" for one another and in opposition to child sex abuse. Doing so, he said, is particularly important in the wake of the flood of emotions, including on-campus rioting, that followed Paterno's firing.
    "We ... want to demonstrate not just to the Penn State community, but to the rest of the world, that Penn State is a caring community, that Penn State is moving forward with a sense of purpose, and that hopefully there are elements of good that can come out of this situation," Erickson told reporters after the game.
    Sports Illustrated: Despite defeat, healing process begins
    Paterno's son Jay Paterno, a current Penn State assistant coach, told ESPN on Saturday that "the world ... turned upside down" exactly one week earlier with the arrest of former defensive coordinator Jerry Sandusky. Penn State ready to play without Paterno
    A 23-page grand jury report described crimes that Sandusky allegedly committed against young boys between 1994 and 2009 -- some of them on campus, both during and after his tenure at at Penn State. Sandusky's attorney, Joseph Amendola, has said that his client disputes the report. CNN's Legal Guys on Penn State scandal
    In addition to Sandusky, Penn State Athletic Director Timothy Curley and Senior Vice President for Finance and Business Gary Schultz were charged for failing to report the abuse to authorities and misleading authorities. Penn State students remember victims
    Joe Paterno, the winningest coach in top-level college football history, was not criminally charged. Still, he was dismissed Wednesday by Penn State's board of trustees for failing to do more when a then-graduate assistant told him in 2002 that he had seen Sandusky allegedly rape a boy in the showers of a campus athletics facility.

    Paterno alerted Curley, his immediate boss, but it was years before law enforcement first learned about the allegation. The graduate assistant, Mike McQueary, who was later promoted to a full-time assistant coach, eventually described the alleged incident in graphic detail to a grand jury. McQueary was placed on administrative leave Friday.
    Scores of people gathered outside Paterno's home early Saturday evening to show their support. The former coach wasn't home during the game -- later pulling up in a minivan -- but his wife, Sue, did come out briefly to thank those who "propped me up" after the turbulent week. Sandusky's football career derailed?
    Jay Paterno said Saturday that he had a simple message for his father before the Nittany Lions took to the field Saturday. Alleged victim's psychologist speaks
    "Dad, I wish you were here (and) we love you," the younger Paterno recalled to ESPN, breaking into tears. PSU's Mike McQueary placed on leave
    Many questions remain unanswered in the case, with several investigations launched by the school and the state to probe further possible wrongdoing by team, athletic department and administrative officials.
    Whatever those investigations find, Erickson has said it is imperative to promote dialogue about sexual abuse and change the "culture" at Penn State so that witnesses don't hesitate to come forward.
    "Never again should anyone at Penn State -- regardless of their position -- feel scared to do the right thing," Erickson said earlier this week following his appointment as interim president after trustees on Wednesday ousted Graham Spanier. Spanier initially voiced support for Curley and Schultz following the release of the grand jury report Saturday.
    CNN's Sarah Hoye contributed to this report."


  • Healthy Place, around the nation
  • Talking to your Child about Sexual Abuse, from kidshealth
  • Testimonies

    The God Who Sees Me

    "A testimony of hope for the hopeless."
    Go Back & Get Your Baby!

    "THIS IS A MUST SEE TESTIMONY! A Personal Testimony of Prophetess Sharon D. Walker; A life of child molestation and incest that lead to a life of healing, forgiveness, and victory in Jesus Christ..."

    RAPE Debbie tells her story - :60sec


  • Association for the Treatment of Sexual Abusers

  • Public Policy
    "The goal of this approach is to enable the offenders to understand their behavior, take responsibility for the behavior, increase motivation to change their harmful behavior and learn the skills necessary to control their deviancy. With training in relapse prevention techniques, offenders learn to identify the chain of thoughts and behaviors that, if uninterrupted, could culminate in the commission of a sex offense. In addition to learning to identify the chain, the offender masters alternative non-harmful techniques to intervene and stop the progression of behaviors"
  • RESTORATION PROJECT A Treatment Program for Men Who Have Sexually Offended Children, from Christian Recovery Center

  • "Restoration Project is designed to address the most difficult challenges of treatment. This program has evolved and matured over the years to manage the complex treatment goals and objectives of those needing services. Offenders receive healing within a framework that holds them accountable, responsible and visible in their program and in the community. Treatment is fair, just and firm. The offenders are court-ordered into treatment and we form a collaborative working arrangement with Probation Services, Child Protection, Social Services, Guardian Ad Litem Services and others."

    Biblical Verses

    Genesis 19:5-9, 31-38-Sodom & Gomorrah
    2 Peter 2:10-22-Perverting truth

    Book References:


    The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse, Featuring "Honoring the Truth: A Response to the Backlash"
    Ellen Bass,Preface by Laura Davis / Paperback / HarperTrade / January 1994

    The Courage to Heal Workbook: For Women and Men Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse
    Laura Davis / Paperback / HarperTrade / January 1990

    Allies in Healing: When the Person You Love Was Sexually Abused as a Child
    Laura Davis,Designed by Laura Hough / Paperback / HarperTrade / January 1991

    The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse
    Wendy Maltz,Carol Arian (Illustrator) / Paperback / HarperCollins Publishers, Incorporated / January 1991

    NOTE: These are just some of many books I found in through Search: Sexual Abuse

    Internet Ministries on this issue:

  • Cappucino Cafe, Christian support chat room
  • Christians-in-Recovery
  • Hope of Christ Ministries
  •, counseling services
  • Spiritual Survival, for abuse victims
  • Rape

    *see Issues: Sex

    -Healing Testimonies

    Rape Victim Forgives Attackers

    "At 16-years-old Kelly Putty was kidnapped and raped. But after she became a Christian, she was able to forgive her attackers and energetically help others to find their own healing in Christ. See her testimony of forgiveness. The Christian Broadcasting Network. To see more testimonies from CBN and The 700 Club , go to"

  • Kelly Putty: Rape Victim Forgives Attackers By Robert Hull The 700 Club

  • " –Sixteen-year-old Kelly Putty was a happy teenager with a bright future. One night, her life was brutally interrupted. She was running errands when she noticed two men parked next to her car.
    “Something did not look right, but again I was from a small town, I was not trained in any kind of safety or what to look for,” Kelly said.
    Kelly ignored the feeling and walked to her car.
    “I got as far as putting my key in the lock and a man came up behind me with a knife and stuck it to my neck and told me if I said a word he would kill me,” Kelly said. “I really honestly could not think of what to do. I just froze.”
    The men forced Kelly into the car and drove off.
    “I was crying and begging them to let me out, and anytime I said anything they would punch me in the face,” she said. “So I quickly learned I couldn’t speak or do anything except just submit.”
    The men drove to a secluded area and took turns raping Kelly.
    “As it is happening it is so surreal, that you can’t image, like you’re watching a bad movie. You can’t imagine that this is happening to you,” Kelly said. “I’m in shock. I’m numb. I don’t know what to think. I don’t know what to feel. You just try to get through it.”
    Kelly’s nightmare continued for hours into the night.
    “The masks were off. I saw their faces,” Kelly said. “That is when I thought, ‘I’m gonna die; I’m not going to make it through this.’”
    The men put Kelly back in the car and drove off. Then, in a bizarre twist, the men stopped to pick up the driver’s wife from work. With the wife at the wheel they drove past the location where Kelly had been abducted. The police were already on the scene.
    “At this point, I saw my help and this was my only chance for survival; so I, I’m yelling at her to let me out of the car,” Kelly said.
    The woman stopped the car and let her out. She ran to the police and told them what happened. The men were arrested and later received life sentences for the severity of their crimes. But Kelly was left with deep emotional and physical scars.
    “After the rape, subconsciously I started letting go of everything normal to me,” she said. “Start this new life, pretend that this didn’t happen; I think that was my coping mechanism.”
    But the scars remained. In Kelly’s attempt to begin her new life she started dating a boy named Shane. He was a Christian.
    “I started going to church with him but I still was not willing to give my heart to the Lord,” she said. “I was doing what came natural and that was relying on Shane and trying to forget the past. Bury the past. That’s probably what I would have continued to do had I not gotten sick.”
    As a result of the rape, Kelly was left with a medical condition that brought on cancer and infertility.
    “They started me on these Chemo treatments. It was supposed to last eight weeks,” Kelly said. “During those eight weeks, Shane started praying and he got his church praying for me; and when I went back to the Doctor after the eight weeks, the Doctor was amazed. He said, ‘there is no scar tissue; there is nothing to show that you ever had any problems.’ This was the same doctor that stood up in court and testified that I would never be able to have children due to the complications from the rape.”
    Kelly knew she had been miraculously healed by God, but Shane remained the center of her new life.
    “I still relied on him to try to take these emotions away from me, to try to make me feel better,” she said. “I was still hurting from the rape. But it was so buried, I didn’t realize it, but it was all coming out in my neediness towards him.”
    Before long, Kelly, who was just 17 was pregnant.
    “I was petrified,” Kelly said. “When I discovered I was pregnant, it was a miracle in its self, because the doctor told me I was never going to be able to have children. So abortion was never an option.”
    Kelly and Shane married after graduating from high school. They attended church regularly. While Shane’s fervor for God grew, Kelly’s heart remained hard. One Sunday morning, when she was eight months pregnant, she heard a sermon about what Jesus did on the cross for her.
    “All of these things that he was describing were things that I needed to be free from: the shame, the fear, low self esteem. All these things that I was still trying to fix myself,” Kelly said. “I just knew this was my moment. He said, ‘Jesus can take this pain from you.’ I went down and he prayed with me and I accepted the Lord. That was just me giving all of my junk to God: the low self esteem, the shame, the guilt.”
    Christ had lifted the shame off of Kelly, and some of the scriptures really spoke to her heart.
    “Second Samuel 13, that is the story of Tamar where she was brutally raped by her brother,” Kelly said. “It was just God speaking to me, showing me that I was not the only one - you feel so alone, so shamed, like you are the only person that this has happened to.
    Her next step in her journey with Christ was to forgive the people who raped her and stole so much from her. She tells how this happened.
    “I just faithfully prayed about it,” she said. “Then I started feeling a peace about it. When I thought about the men, I did not have all the emotions that were tied to them that I had previously.”
    Her act of forgiveness was put to the test one Sunday morning while visiting a church in her home town. The pastor asked people to come to the front of the church and pray for the person in front of them. As Kelly looked up, she realized the woman in front of her was the mother of one of her attackers.
    “Instead of her son being the first person I saw when I looked at her, I was actually looking at her with a mother’s heart,” Kelly said. “I saw the heart of a mother in her and I saw how broken it was; and I was able to pray for her and I was able to pray for her son.”
    Kelly has been set free from the emotional and physical wounds of her past. She and Shane have five children and they just adopted a sixth child from Ethiopia. She is a photographer and in her spare time she’s an artist.
    “I want people to know that they can not make it in this world without God. I thought I could. I was on a road where I was ruthless and nothing would ever happen to me,” Kelly said. “But, life happens and that is when we realize we really need a Savior. It does not matter what you’ve been through, how ugly it is, what it looks like on the outside, the shame that comes with it - it can all be lifted off your shoulders; but only through allowing Jesus to come into your heart. That is what changes you and then you have to live it. His love and His grace will just overshadow all of the darkness.” Can God change your life?
    God has made it possible for you to know Him and experience an amazing change in your own life. Discover how you can find peace with God."

  • Susan B.'s Abuse- I wanted to kill myself to end the pain, from

  • "..Also at the age of 12, my father decided to give me a sex education lesson by raping me on multiple occasions. Until that point, I barely knew there were two genders in the world. He continued to take advantage of me sexually and used every opportunity to humiliate me. My parents constantly beat me and humiliated me. I was constantly being molested, raped, and beaten by drunken visitors. In order to cope and have some place of acceptance, several other kids from the militia experiment formed a street gang based on the knowledge we received from television. Our gang becames a force to be reckoned with. ..


  • Victim - Survivor - Thriver , from
  • -Abortion


  • "...This page is a compilation of life-affirming personal stories of men and women who were conceived in rape and/or incest.
    Rebecca Kiessling from Michigan, Allison Hillaker from Michigan, Russell Saltzman from Missouri, Irene van der Wende from the Netherlands, Sharon Isley from Iowa, Carole Roy from Ontario, Canada, Bethaney Tessitore from Alabama, Jenni Maas with Human Life International, Tony Kiessling from Pennsylvania, Pam Stenzel with Enlighten Communications, Mary Payne from Oklahoma, Tim, Ed Mohs from Washington, Kristi Hofferber from Illinois, Brian T. from Minnesota, Patti Smith from California, Jaquese Gaskins from Michigan (attending college in California), "Godchaser" from Alabama, Ildiko Curtis from Texas (born in Hungary), Laura Tedders from Michigan, and Monica Kelsey from Indiana.
    On the tabs below, you'll also find links to even more children born of rape stories. ..

    Conceived in Rape Panel Video filmed August, 2010 at St. Michael's Media Studios
    Conceived in Rape

    What really matters about abortion - Today's Christian Videos starlitshores Posted 3 years ago

    "Posted By starlitshores 3 years ago More videos from this user Some suggested that my mother have an abortion but she did not and so I am alive today. My story in expressed in my video "Morning Has broken: Abortion and Pro-life" Abortion stops a beating heart thousands of times per day. A human heart starts beating 18-24 days after conception, before a woman even knows she is pregnant. I am not condemning anyone who has had an abortion, I do not have the authority to judge them. All I am saying is that life and the soul of a baby in the womb is precious , it means something in this world, and we should think twice before taking that life away. What was his or her life suppose to be? What does her life mean now? What was the baby suppose to learn? Who was she suppose to affect? We don't have the wisdom to stop her beating heart, stop the life the surges through her.Regarding Rape, Incest, and the life of the mother:I, myself, was pro-choice for years. I felt that it was wrong as simply a from of birth control, but that in the hard cases it should be allowed. The thing to remember, however, is that in cases such as rape and incest, the child conceived is still present... Rape and incest are some of the worst, most violating, harmful events a woman can go through. No one can ever justify them. However, the life conceived in this horrible acts is innocent. The rapist often gets away or is given jail time. His child is given the death penalty. No woman should ever have to make that choice. No woman should ever be violated against her will. But the biology--the life--of the baby conceived is no different than any other baby conceived. Also, many women who have an abortion after a rape still feel immense regret and go through the same feelings of rape as they go through the painful act of abortion. Many women who allow the child to live feel that they have been able to rise above the evil act of rape by having their child. Nearly 1% of women getting abortions have been raped and we must always show them love and care, but if you real"

    Recommended Resources



  • MN Recovery Page
  • MN Center Against Violence and Abuse
  • Focus Adolescent Services
  • Treatment Centers, from therapeutic milieu
  • Law Enforcement

  • Stearns County deputy accused of sexually abusing three teens Associated Press Updated: 04/02/2010 08:36:16 PM CDT

  • Religious


  • Retired Priest Speaks Out On Alleged Child Abuse, Church Cover Up July 26, 2012 6:34 PM

  • "MINNEAPOLIS (WCCO) – A retired Winona priest is coming forward after allegations of child abuse were tossed out by the Minnesota Supreme Court on Wednesday.
    Retired Fr. James Edward Fitzpatrick of Diocese of Winona says he knew for decades his church had covered up allegations of abuse by victims.
    “It’s a matter of conscience,” Fitzpatrick said. “It’s been bothering me for years.”
    Fitzpatrick and others are accusing retired priest Thomas Adamson of abusing more than a dozen children and the Archdiocese of St. Paul -Minneapolis of knowingly covering it up.
    “I first knew about it first hand in 1965 when two sets of parents came to me at the Cathedral of the Sacred Heart in Winona and told me about their sons being abused by Tom Adamson,” Fitzpatrick said.
    Fitzpatrick kept silent out of fear of losing his job.
    Adamson was later assigned to Church of the Risen Savior in Burnsville, Minn., in 1981. Jim Keenan, 45, attended the church during that time and was an altar boy.
    On Wednesday, Keenan had his abuse case tossed out of the Minnesota Supreme Court. His lawsuit was based on a repressed memory. Keenan says he was abused by Adamson several times between 1980 and 1981. In 2006 he sued the Archdiocese of St. Paul-Minneapolis well outside the six year statute of limitations.
    “The science of repressed memory wasn’t considered science enough to be admissible in court,” Keenan said. “I’m disappointed but I’m certainly not going to be quiet.”
    If the case would’ve gone to trial, Fitzpatrick would’ve testified how the church moved Adamson around after abuse allegations surfaced. Keenan’s attorney, Jeff Anderson, also had letters written by church leaders discussing the abuse by Adamson.
    One letter reads: “In the counseling process at St. Cloud, it became evident that (blank name) was also sexually abused from 1978 to 1982. I asked Father Adamson about this and he admitted and, in fact, he had abused the boy during that period of time. I did not go into sexual activity, but Father Adamson agreed that it probably would be first degree sexual contact.”
    Anderson has a list of 46 priests from the Archdiocese of Winona and St. Paul-Minneapolis accused of abuse. The list was given to Anderson by church bishops, but it was sealed by a protective order. Anderson says if the case would’ve gone to trial, he would’ve made the list public.
    “Two times in this case we’ve been back to court trying to get that list released,” Anderson said. “This is a public safety issue.”
    Keenan says his lawsuit was never about money. What he wanted was a policy change within the church.
    “I want them to live like the rest of us,” Keenan said. “I have a staff of 47; we work with children with special needs. If a staffer of mine touches a child, they don’t get to go in front of another child. My first call is to 911.”
    In a statement Thursday, the Archdiocese of Saint Paul and Minneapolis said it “deeply regrets any pain or harm caused by Adamson.”
    It said Adamson was removed from public ministry in 1984 and that the abuse claims made about him have been public for more than 20 years.
    “We are very sorry for any mistakes made in the handling of this situation,” the archdiocese said.
    The statement went on to say that the archdiocese is committed to “ensuring the safety of children and young people” by doing background checks on adults who work with minors and by training priests, teachers, coaches, volunteers and children in its schools and religious programs. "


    *see Bible


  • Dave Pelzer A Child Called "It": One Child's Courage to Survive

  • *this was referred to a friend of mine, who was abused by his parents and others in different ways
    -Speakers' Forum, topics from Pelzer speaks on, who is a "walking testimony" of an abused foster child turned "sucessful" in life!


  • Pamela Anderson reveals sexual abuse: 'I just wanted off this earth' By Alan Duke, CNN updated 11:16 AM EDT, Mon May 19, 2014

  • "(CNN) -- Actress Pamela Anderson revealed Friday that she suffered sexual abuse throughout her childhood, starting at age 6 when she was molested by a babysitter. The former "Baywatch" star talked about it in remarks at the launch of her animal rights charity -- The Pamela Anderson Foundation -- at the Cannes Film Festival in France. Playboy: Entertainment for men Playboy: Entertainment for men "I feel now might be the time to reveal some of my most painful memories," she said, according to the transcript posted on her online blog. Although she had "loving parents" while growing up in British Columbia, Canada, Anderson said she "did not have an easy childhood." She recounted being molested between the ages of 6 and 10 "by my female babysitter," and then being raped when she was 12 by the 25-year-old brother of a "friend's boyfriend." The man "decided he would teach me backgammon, which led into a back massage, which led into rape," she said. Coincidentally, the Cannes event at which she revealed the rape was a backgammon tournament. "Needless to say, I had a hard time trusting humans," Anderson said. "I just wanted off this earth."..."


    "Bring Me To Life" - Youth Drama

    ”Human video acted out to Evanescence song "Bring Me To Life". Contains a graphic acting out of generational abuse. This drama was performed numerous times in a six month period. This is a compilation of four seperate performances edited together. It's been at least four years ago. It still moves me. Search remixthenoise for more info. Pt wrote it. There have been many requests for copies and downloads. Send a message through godtube. We'll try to accommodate all”


  • Sidwell Friends fires teacher, Robert A. "Pete" Peterson, accused of sex abuse By Bill Turque and Dan Morse Washington Post Staff Writers Thursday, January 21, 2010

  • "According to Montgomery County charging documents dated Jan. 14, Peterson befriended a male Sidwell student and repeatedly invited him to his Silver Spring home. Peterson showed the student pornography and touched him inappropriately, the charging documents say. ..


    Lost and Found: Healing a woman from child abuse, rape, assault

    "Uploaded by twirling0408 on Sep 23, 2010 Please search under 0408hope to see my other videos. They are on suicide, healing, and verbal/emotional abuse. Until now, I believed " Someday I'll share my testimony with the world.". Now I see that God has me in the middle of it. m in the middle of the most important part of my testimony! The most crucial part. I realize it's not about surviving. I did that for years and sometimes just barely. The most crucial part is what happens when you have been abused, beat down, scarred, terrified, trampled, and met the lowest points of your soul....and you realize that in the midst of a that pain and trauma, you can LIVE. Not just survive, but live. What's that I hear?? The sound of Jesus' heartbeat. To glory be to God - he's making beauty from ashes. "


  • Domestic Violence Awareness Month,

  • " Domestic Violence Awareness Month evolved from the first Day of Unity observed in October, 1981 by the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. The intent was to connect battered women’s advocates across the nation who were working to end violence against women and their children. The Day of Unity soon became a special week when a range of activities were conducted at the local, state, and national levels."


    News Anchor Takes Bold Stand Against Domestic Abuse - Inspirational Videos

    News Anchor Takes Bold Stand Against Domestic Abuse from joylights on GodTube.

    "Posted By joylights a day ago Jai Cunningham and his family have been victims of domestic abuse, so it's no surprise that he would want to take such a bold stance on the issue. His brave act will leave you inspired and with tears in your eyes! "


  • Freedom in Truth
  • Music

  • RadioSongs Related to Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault...and Survival, from
  • Ellen Bukstel - Faces Of Violence - 1


    Hood and Tru Witness featuring J Styles - Stop Holding On

    "Manny-Mac Productions Inc. in Association with Hood Life Entertainment brings to you the hit single from Hood and Tru Witness featuring J Styles entitled "Stop Holding On". Shots out to everyone involved! Everyone please take the words and message of this song to heart! Domestic violence is a problem that has plagued our society for far too long! Let's all stand up and do what we can to make this world a better place for our friends and loved ones!"

    -Hip Hop

    Anti-Domestic Violence Theme Song "Move On"

    "Check out the anti-domestic violence theme song created by By Word Of, leaders in urban musical marketing. For a FREE demo of your customized song, visit By Word Of "


    Christina Aguilera "I'm OK"

    Christina Aguilera - I'm OK
    Album: Stripped
    Year: 2002
    ..Bruises fade father, but the pain remains the same And I still remember how you kept me so afraid Strength is my mother for all the love she gave And every morning that I wake I look back at yesterday And I'm okay..

  • ZJam's Weblinks youth related
  • Rape

  • Answers to Christian Teens' Questions About Date Rape By Kelli Mahoney, Guide

  • "...teens believe that most rapes are committed by a stranger, the facts show that most rapes are committed by someone close to the girl, like a friend, boyfriend, or date. Here are some answers to the common questions regarding date rape:...
  • Confused and Ashamed I Had My First Orgasm While Being Gang Raped! * * * By “Courtney”

  • "My father emotionally, physically and sexually abused me. I moved out at the age of seventeen, hoping to escape all the pain, only to find out that it would follow me. My psyche and boundaries were very damaged and I did not realize that because of my upbringing and appearance I attracted sexual predators.
    After marrying at age twenty-one, I discovered my husband was a porn addict. So great was his sexual perversity and infidelity that I was at a loss to know what to do to save my marriage. Finally, after five years of marriage, I sought counseling from my church pastor. I had no idea that this man had a history of being a sexual predator. He had been moved from church to church after each report of sexual abuse but no other action was taken, nor was the new congregation warned.
    After several counseling sessions he gained my trust. He was twenty years older than me and not only did I look up to him as my pastor, but as a father figure. In hopes of finding healing I told him all about my failing marriage and the abuse I had endured as a child. He took a keen interest in me that made me feel special. I really thought he cared and wanted to help me. His acts of kindness convinced me that I had found a father figure I could trust and who would help me save my marriage and work through my past abuse.
    One day he phoned, asking if I could meet him at a nearby restaurant for our counseling session that evening as he could not make it to the church office in time for our scheduled meeting. Without suspecting a thing, I agreed. ...



  • Stories from Rape Victims • Life Before ... - Christian Answers Network - Similar -

  • "# "When I left for a week-long college orientation last June, danger was the furthest thing from my mind. I had to schedule classes, meet potential roommates, take my placement tests… everything but concern myself with safety. Rape, often featured in the nightly news, was nothing that seemed realistic to me.
    The first day of orientation had gone well. I had taken in several lectures, eaten out with my orientation group, been to a “dive-in” movie and toured around the campus. I was tired, but when several girls on my dorm floor asked me to a party I was determined to go. After all, college was all social life, right? I had been to parent supervised parties back home, but they were very tame compared to the scene we witnessed upon entering.
    My dorm mates abandoned me as soon as we stepped through the door. There were kegs of beer and various bottles of strong liquor set up in the kitchen, and loud music booming from the den. There were so many partiers that we were squeezed together like sardines. My confidence and pleasure over being a real college student evaporated as I watched my schoolmates dancing, drinking and even trying drugs.
    I wanted to leave but we were miles from campus and my dorm mate was the only one driving. I sat down on the couch in the living room, the quietest place in the house, and tried to make the best of it. Soon, a guy my age came over. He wasn't staggering or swearing. In fact he seemed well in control of himself. He sat down beside me and we began to talk.
    His name was Roger and he was a Junior. He remarked on the cross hanging from my neck and suggested we attend church together sometime. Instantly I felt better. I let my defenses down and engaged him in conversation for a while.
    "Would you like a drink?" he asked after a few minutes. I told him that I didn't drink beer, and he offered me a Pepsi. He seemed so sweet and courteous. When he returned with the soda he suggested we go upstairs, to talk in quiet. I was a little suspicious, but I figured nothing could really happen in a house full of people. Besides, he was a Christian, and he seemed very kind and attentive.
    We went up to one of the bedrooms and Roger left the door a little bit open, to make me feel better. I drank some soda and continued talking. Soon I was exhausted, almost so badly that I couldn't keep my eyes open. I asked Roger to find my friends and have them give me a ride home. He agreed and went out, closing the door softly. I closed my eyes and felt my forehead, wondering if I was coming down with something.
    Then, suddenly, Roger was back in the room. He closed the door this time and locked it as well. I tried to get up and yell but I couldn't. I was too weak to even sit up. He raped me in the bedroom, among a house full of people. It was the worst night of my life. Eventually my dorm mates found me and brought me to the nurses station. I filled out a report orally while she did tests.
    The nurse shocked me, saying that I had been given the date rape drug. I didn't believe her at first. I never took medication that I didn't get for myself, and I certainly hadn't had any the night before. She explained that it was most likely mixed with my Pepsi and I hadn't even noticed!
    I went home early and spent months in therapy. I was feeling horrible; guilty, ashamed, frightened. It seemed like I couldn't trust anyone. After all, Roger had seemed like a real nice guy. I was afraid to go out for a while too, and held my mothers hand when we were on our way to shop or attend church. I'm feeling a lot better now, but it's taken many months to come to terms with everything.
    My advice to all party-goers is BE CAREFUL. You need to be in control of the situation. Don't drink, or if you do, drink in moderation. If you are drunk you won't be able to defend yourself or think straight. Stay with friends and people you know and trust. It is tempting to go off with someone new, especially if you think the situation is safe, but that is not always the case. Whenever you feel uncomfortable head home, call a taxi, whatever. And girls, get your own beverages. The date rape drug is very common these days. You need to know that no one has tampered with your drink, even if you're just having a soda. Take care of yourself."
    the above story sent in by Catja, age 18 Posted September 1999
    # "I have read through the other stories on this page in which most cases the child was kept by the mother. My story is a little different. At the age of 17 I was raped by my boyfriend and became pregnant, only I didn't know it until I had left the area to go to college. I was only at the college for 3 days when I found out I was pregnant. I called my dad and told him I wanted out of school, so he sent me to my grandparents house. Then my dad told me I had 3 choices a)abortion b)adoption or c)keeping the child myself, he wasn't going to tell me which one to choose—the problem was mine and I had to figure out how to fix it.
    Well at 17 I had no job or permanent place to live at so I choose b) adoption. I have to admit it was the hardest choice I have ever had to make, but it was one that I feel was God led. I called an open adoption agency and asked a lot of questions that first day. I wanted to make sure it was legal. My social worker was the best! She helped me with any and all questions and even when my former boyfriend denied being the father she was there to hold my hand. She gave me files that couples had to fill out about themselves so I could read them and get to know them. The couple I picked even had a video tape of themselves that I got to watch. Even though the tape wasn't very clear, and I had just an idea about these people I knew God was telling me these were the people to choose. I got to meet the couple (even though I was scared outta my mind) and we had a very good visit. I ended up having a baby girl and I got to feed her and bathe her while in the hospital—it was wonderful. I was also there when the couple met that baby for the first time. I have to admit it was the hardest moment of my life, I even ended up running out of the room crying. But by the time I walked out of that hospital I knew I had done the right thing for myself and that beautiful baby girl. I was later told how brave I was to do such a thing. I don't consider myself brave, I see it as I had a bad situation and God turned it into a Godly situation. So many people have a negative reaction about adoption. I'm here to tell you it can be a beautiful, wonderful situation that is a better choice than abortion."
    the above story sent in by Mary Reynolds, age 25 Posted September 1999
    # "Ten years ago I was raped and became pregnant. I always felt in my heart that abortion was wrong, but under the circumstances, I thought it was the best thing to do. I went to a crisis pregnancy center in order to get information on how to get an abortion. I met a woman who listened to my predicament and explained what took place during an abortion and what stage of development my baby was in. I was approximately 10 weeks pregnant at the time. She explained that my baby could feel pain. I left feeling more confused than ever, but still leaning towards abortion. Weeks and months passed and I slowly decided that I just couldn't go through with the abortion. I finally decided to place my baby for adoption. I was able to select the parents and meet them. Then about 3 weeks later I delivered a beautiful baby girl. I named her Samantha and 2 days later she went to live with her adoptive parents. She is now a healthy, happy 9 year old with a very bright future. It breaks my heart every time I think of how close I came to ending her life."
    the above story sent in by Pamela Cleveland, age 33 "


  • 18-year-old Christian woman raped/forced to convert to Islam Postby Great Globalist on Sun Nov 04, 2007 3:28 am

  • " John 10:10 on Sun Nov 04, 2007 1:46 pm I do not believe this story was about religion at all. It was about lust and violence towards women they don't respect as equals. Anyone who would such a thing may have a religion, but has no relationship with the true and living God. Pakistan has very serious problems and is headed towards civil war as more and more radical Islamic groups seek to gain control of the country. If they do so, another Iraq/Afganistan is in the making....

    ...Postby a_yahya on Sat Nov 10, 2007 5:31 pm this has nothing to do with islam... according to the holy quran non mahram men shud not even touch women.. and men and women shud keep their gaze down while talking to each other....


  • Rape In The Bible,

  • " Rape is one of the most heinous crimes imaginable. Yet few people know that the Bible often condones and even approves of rape. How anyone can get their moral guidance from a book that allows rape escapes me. Perhaps they have been lied to about the Bible and carefully detoured around all the nasty stuff in the Bible.
    So grab your Bibles and follow along as I show you all the nasty rapes that your priests and preachers don't want to tell you about. Note that in many places in the Bible there are references to "taking a wife". Don't be fooled into thinking that these were voluntary marriages. This first quote clearly shows that murder and force were used to "take" these wives. "


  • National Child Abuse Prevention Month, from

  • "...April is National Child Abuse Prevention Month, a time to raise awareness about child abuse and neglect and encourage individuals and communities to support children and families. Learn more about the history of the month, see examples of Presidential and State proclamations, and find strategies for engaging communities and supporting families...


  • Lawyer For Man Claiming He Was Sexually Abused By Famous Director Says He’ll Name More Names Monday April 20, 2014 11:50 PM

  • "LOS ANGELES ( — The lawyer for the man who says “X-Men” director Bryan Singer sexually abused him when he was an underage teen in the late 1990s, says on Monday he will name three executives who were also part of an alleged Hollywood sex ring. Jeff Herman, a nationally-recognized attorney who deals with many cases of sexual abuse, announced the press conference Sunday. Herman said he will file three lawsuits on Monday and name the Hollywood executives at a 2 p.m. press conference at the Four Seasons Hotel in Beverly Hills. The attorney said his client, Michael Egan III, now 31, will attend the news conference with his mother. At a press conference last week, Egan said men in the sex ring plied young teens with alcohol and drugs and promised them work in TV and movies. He likened the alleged behavior as being treated like “a piece of meat.” He also said he was threatened with physical violence to keep quiet. An attorney for Singer said Egan’s claims about the director were “absurd and defamatory.” Marty Singer, no relation to the director, also said he and his client would file a malicious prosecution counter-suit “after we prevail.” "


    Meet Betty

    Meet Betty.
    rnBetty was born the result of a rape Betty was left at a girls home a few years later. She was molested five times. Betty ran away at age 15.
    rnBetty became a lesbian to get by. She left her lesbian lover to marry her lover's brother. Betty left him after a few years to protect herself and her daughter.
    rnBetty became a prositute to buy a refridgerator.
    rnBetty found Jesus at age 56. God reached out to her offering hope, and He is reaching out to you.
    rnMeet Betty



    Prisoner to sexual assault saved by God - Ministry Videos

    Prisoner to sexual assault saved by God from aussietestimonies on GodTube.

    Social Justice


  • Somali Rape Victim Stoned To Death Was 13- Rights Group Says Teen Who Reported Rape Was Accused Of Adultery, Then Killed In Packed Stadium, MOGADISHU, Somalia, Nov. 1, 2008

  • "..Dozens of men stoned Aisha Ibrahim Duhulow to death Oct. 27 in a stadium packed with 1,000 spectators in the southern port city of Kismayo, Amnesty International and Somali media reported, citing witnesses.
    The Islamic militia in charge of Kismayo had accused her of adultery after she reported that three men had raped her, the rights group said.
    Initial local media reports said Duhulow was 23, but her father told Amnesty International she was 13. Some of the Somali journalists who first reported the killing later told Amnesty International that they had reported she was 23 based upon her physical appearance....

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